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Low self-confidence Talking Therapies

Low self-confidence

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Some of the common symptoms of low self-esteem/confidence

Have you been feeling?

  • low
  • upset
  • tearful
  • sad
  • vulnerable
  • worthless
  • useless

Have you had thoughts like?

  • ‘No one likes me’
  • ‘I’m not good enough’
  • ‘Others are much better at everything compared to me’
  • ‘I am useless’
  • ‘I am not worthy’
  • ‘I don’t deserve any better’

Have you noticed?

  • you are spending more time alone
  • you are sleeping too much or too little
  • you have stopped doing the things you enjoy
  • you put others before yourself
  • you don’t express your opinions
  • you are over caring and over helpful
  • you find it hard to say no to people
  • people take advantage of your good nature

Possible causes of low self-esteem/confidence

  • stressful life events – these can be unwelcome or traumatic, such as being bullied at work, getting divorced, or being attacked/abused
  • negative thinking – sometimes you may start to think negatively due to an event or situation, this  can then become a habit and part of your general outlook; you may not even be aware of how negatively you were thinking or how this is impacting on you
  • lack of interest or reduction of pleasurable activities – sometimes, due to circumstances, you may reduce activities that you gained pleasure, satisfaction or achievement from; you then do not increase these activities as soon as possible, instead you may forget just how much you benefited from these activities, causing  you to have a lack of interest in doing them.
  • anger – if you struggle to express your feelings particularly anger you may find yourself low in self-esteem/confidence as a result of not expressing your anger or frustration in a safe and responsible way
  • repeated failure or rejection – if you have tried your best at something and you keep failing, or you feel rejected from an experience, you may develop low self-esteem; this can occur in a variety of situations, such as applying for jobs, taking exams for school or university, or in social circles/groups

How common is low self-esteem/confidence?

  • low self-esteem occurs in 7 in 10 women in the UK at any one time
  • 40% of young women struggle with low self-esteem, compared to 18 % of young men
  • 85% of the world’s population is affected by low self-esteem

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