Some of the common symptoms of low self-esteem/confidence
Have you been feeling?
Have you had thoughts like?
- ‘No one likes me’
- ‘I’m not good enough’
- ‘Others are much better at everything compared to me’
- ‘I am useless’
- ‘I am not worthy’
- ‘I don’t deserve any better’
Have you noticed?
- you are spending more time alone
- you are sleeping too much or too little
- you have stopped doing the things you enjoy
- you put others before yourself
- you don’t express your opinions
- you are over caring and over helpful
- you find it hard to say no to people
- people take advantage of your good nature
Possible causes of low self-esteem/confidence
- stressful life events – these can be unwelcome or traumatic, such as being bullied at work, getting divorced, or being attacked/abused
- negative thinking – sometimes you may start to think negatively due to an event or situation, this can then become a habit and part of your general outlook; you may not even be aware of how negatively you were thinking or how this is impacting on you
- lack of interest or reduction of pleasurable activities – sometimes, due to circumstances, you may reduce activities that you gained pleasure, satisfaction or achievement from; you then do not increase these activities as soon as possible, instead you may forget just how much you benefited from these activities, causing you to have a lack of interest in doing them.
- anger – if you struggle to express your feelings particularly anger you may find yourself low in self-esteem/confidence as a result of not expressing your anger or frustration in a safe and responsible way
- repeated failure or rejection – if you have tried your best at something and you keep failing, or you feel rejected from an experience, you may develop low self-esteem; this can occur in a variety of situations, such as applying for jobs, taking exams for school or university, or in social circles/groups
How common is low self-esteem/confidence?
- low self-esteem occurs in 7 in 10 women in the UK at any one time
- 40% of young women struggle with low self-esteem, compared to 18 % of young men
- 85% of the world’s population is affected by low self-esteem